Why am i being bullied? Story by Heather

“When I was in high school I got teased a lot for being ugly. It started with just one popular girl she and her couple friends were calling me ugly and making fun of how messed up my face was. She threatened to beat me up and I made some comment saying “yeah right small asian girl is not gonna beat me up” to her. Anyways bc of that comment she told everyone I was racist and hated everyone who wasnt white and I went to a very diverse high school so after that everyone hated me. They just attacked me for my appearance. Her bf said my face looked like someone who was on meth and after that literally everyone started calling me “meth girl.” This dude stole my dance journal when I got it back it had the word meth written all over it. And this other person i dont know posted this video about me on youtube a rap about me being on meth. He uploaded it to 3 different youtube accounts. I also had some girls get together and make me a video on facebook where they went through my photos and laughed at how ugly i was and pointed out my flaws also one girl ate food and was like hey b*tch this is food you should try it some time cuz im really skinny i guess. People didnt know but right before I got bullied so bad I struggled with anorexia and had to be hospitalized and put on a feeding tube bc i was so ill. At the time I tried really hard to be pretty I would wake up every morning early to put on make up, straighten my hair, put in my clip in hair extensions, put in color contacts in attempt to make myself look pretty and I still got bullied tons for being ugly. I had a total of 6 hate videos made about me calling me ugly, stupid, worthless, pointing out i was weird and had no friends. Also this dude wrote a blog on my schools gossip website saying i was hideous and should kill myself. A lot of other horrible things happened too but I don’t feel like typing the rest all out…”

It’s been two years since all this happened my senior year of high school. I’m going into my junior year of college soon. But I never stopped feeling worthless about myself. I’m embarassed and ashamed of myself. I skipped so many classes just bc I was too embarassed to show my face in public. I don’t know what to do, I’ve already been to therapy but it didn’t help me. I’m still angry at the people who bullied me and I’m still embarrassed to go out in public cuz I feel ugly and inadequate.

 

 

Like many other stories this one touches my heart like many others.  I feel the pain and suffering the girl has endured for one small slip up.  It’s funny how no matter how many good things you do, that one mistake you make, you will always be remembered for.  I believe if she had one person reach out to her and gave her hope, she would be able to overcome her fear of being judged in public.  It’s hard for the other kids to not join in for the fear of being different and independent minded.  Many kids just follow the motions of one popular kid or bully that seems to be popular.  Most kids that linger with that popular child is because the fear of being judged and to gain popularity for others to see that persons successes and perfections.  I know it’s hard to say you can’t do anything but talk to her and let her know her worth value is greater and/or equal to others, but that is the best you can do until you stand up for yourself.  I know it’s hard for kids to do that, but strength is in numbers if you spread the awareness.  I wish you luck heather and that you find that special someone or group of friends to show you that you are special and beautiful.  You are a swan that has been covered in the brush and need to be seen.  So spread your wings, soar the sky showing your magnificent beauty to the world, and be the envy of the sky.

 

~ Winged Wolf

PLAN OF ACTION

PLAN OF ACTION

I would like to make a suggestion to assist on school bus bullying. TO assist the child from being bullied on the bus would require a volunteer regulator on busses. I think the best way is to have those stay at home parents, either mom, dad, brother, ect., sit on bus in the middle to ensure no bullying is happening. I am sure if introduced to your school administrators to help fight bullying would be welcomed. Although staying on bus with own child could be detrimental to the child being bullied, other guardians watching the bus could help. The best way to start a groups is advertise volunteerism online. There are many resources, newspaper, craigslist, flyers, ect. The “Protected Order of the Wolf Pack” greatly recommends you reach out to other parents and friends. Lets stomp out bullying and grow our sacred Wolf Pack and keep our cubs from danger and fear so they can grow properly to become great leaders of the world and be themselves.

POLL

BULLYING DEFINITION

Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. Both kids who are bullied and who bully others may have serious, lasting problems. In order to be considered bullying, the behavior must be aggressive and include:

– An Imbalance of Power: Kids who bully use their power—such as physical strength, access to embarrassing information, or popularity—to control or harm others. Power imbalances can change over time and in different situations, even if they involve the same people.

– Repetition: Bullying behaviors happen more than once or have the potential to happen more than once.

Bullying includes actions such as making threats, spreading rumors, attacking someone physically or verbally, and excluding someone from a group on purpose.

TYPES OF BULLYING

There are four types of bullying:

– Verbal bullying is saying or writing mean things. Verbal bullying includes:

    – Teasing

    – Name-calling

    – Inappropriate sexual comments

    – Taunting

    – Threatening to cause harm

– Social bullying, sometimes referred to as relational bullying, involves hurting someone’s reputation or relationships. Social bullying includes:

    – Leaving someone out on purpose

    – Telling other children not to be friends with someone

    – Spreading rumors about someone

    – Embarrassing someone in public

– Physical bullying involves hurting a person’s body or possessions. Physical bullying includes:

    – Hitting/kicking/pinching

    – Spitting

    – Tripping/pushing

    – Taking or breaking someone’s things

    – Making mean or rude hand gestures

– Manipulative bullying is when someone manipulates someone or guilt’s someone into doing things or justifying their aggressive behaviors.

WHERE AND WHEN BULLYING HAPPENS

Bullying can occur during or after school hours. While most reported bullying happens in the school building, a significant percentage also happens in places like on the playground or the bus. It can also happen travelling to or from school, in the youth’s neighborhood, or on the Internet.

FREQUENCY OF BULLYING

There are two sources of federally collected data on youth bullying:

– The 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention) indicates that, nationwide, 20 percent of students in grades 9–12 experienced bullying.

– The 2008–2009 School Crime Supplement (National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice Statistics) indicates that, nationwide, 28 percent of students in grades 6–12 experienced bullying.

UNTOLD STORY OF KYRIA AND HER BULLY

Here is a story from a member named Kyria. I would like to share this story and give some insight.

KYRIA’S STORY:

I was having the best year of my life…And a girl named PS showed up! At first she seemed cool so we started hanging ou.! Little by little she’d start asking for things I had and I’d give them to her just so she wouldn’t talk about me. I finally stood up and stopped giving her things but it got worse! She turend my friends against me and I was alone! My 9th grade year came around (current grade) and the year started off okay. I met my best friend Tiffany! And because she was friends with me PS bullied her! I was miserable coming to school not knowing what was gonna happend next. The girl had a twin sister. And one day me and Tiffany where together. They jumped my best friend. My cousin was holding me back…Even though I was scared I knew she was scared the most! It was a 5 on 1 fight! After that she continued to bully me. But my friend had it worse. We/I was miserable! We both complained and cried to our mothers about leaving. Now I had been at this school since I was a baby and they had just arrived. I had suicide thoughts and I almost attempted…I had given up on God and life. Me and Tiffany weren’t the only ones. I had a friend named Macie that had been thrown across the floor by the girl and talked about like a dog! One day our parents got sick of complaining to the school and took it to the big board. We had a big meeting with a lot of parents of the children being bullied. Their was security and very important people. Her mom was their and accused us of bullying her daughter! In the end they gave her 45 days of alternative school! She returns Wednesday! And I’m a nervous wreck me and my friends have prayed and prepared for this day. And it’s come. Wish us luck!

I just wanted to share this because bullying is no joke and you’ll never know how I feel until you’ve experienced it for yourself! I WANNA RAISE AWARENESS BUT I CAN’T DO IT ALONE PLEASE HELP ME! I’M BEGGING YOU!

-Kyria, 9th grade

This story is hard to hear. A little girl just trying to fit in and enjoy her childhood is bullied by someone she befriended. It has been time and time again friends that have been the bullies. The ones that seem to want to be your friends and have a goal to use you for their benefit seem to be the hardest to get rid of. Once they are cut-off they usually jump more from just horsing around to being very aggressive. A lot of the times the aggression will remain if you continue to give in after removing what they wanted. Some ways to assist they don’t continue is always remain in sight of an adult and maybe join a club or sport to avoid them confronting you. If you have other friends or family with you, walk with them and stand your ground together. If it still progresses, and the school fails to intervene, why not press charges with the police. But in order to do that, files with school should be maintained, and be sure to obtain copies of reports of incidences you reported are documented and in hand. Evidence of progression helps prove you case. Don’t allow bullying to stop you from reporting. One Fear is snitching, which some to most kids dread. You may be alienated a little for telling, but at least the bullying will cease. Sadly no matter how many bullies you get rid of, another will take its place. Growing up with bullies, I have noticed that the ones that seem to bully others are ones that are neglected or bullied at home by family, friends, or even someone close to them. By picking on someone themselves, it gives them a feel good feeling and assists them in releasing their anger and directs it to another person. In order to stop bullying it must be stopped at the source. It is a continuing chain that has a beginning and links from one case to another. As for the suicide thoughts due to bullying, you need to think about this. This story below explains how the bully feels and makes you feel. Both of you are this story but has a slightly different way of handling it.

The world is filled with the rice balls. This particular one like all others looks in the mirror and think to himself, I’m so plain, in nothing special. Which isn’t true. He looks at all the others and see’s they have all these special fruits on their back and wishes he could be like one of them. But if you turn the rice ball around you can see that it too has a great plumb on its back, but it can’t see it.

A bully will always see great qualities in others and envy them. By crushing their qualities and disrupting someone from feeling good, makes them feel as if their fruit is greater because they believe they have an insignificant one and don’t tend to their own. As for the one being bullied, is the same thing. They lost sight of the great big plumb and believe the person telling them it’s not so great or even there. I really wish the world can just stop for a second, step out of their body and see themselves. Because you are all beautiful, special, and worth more than all the gold, money, items, or even fame in the world put together. Nobody is over you and you are over nobody. WE are all one and we need to come to realize, we need to appreciate ourselves and love ourselves as well as others. Remember you are not alone and others are in your place and feel as you feel. Reach out to them and they will to you. Because if we all stand together as a wolf pack, we can be unstoppable.

Bullying

English: this is my own version of what bullying looks like (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

It has come to a time where children young and older are being bullied.  Most are from emotional disturbances and others from physical abuse.  The worse kind are the emotional’s due the the scaring that is harder to recover from.  It even has the potential to draw the child to suicidal thoughts and attempts after all attempts of assistance have been exalted.  I would like to offer my hand out there to help parents and children as well in ways to cope with the situations and eliminate bullying.

 

One thing that is hard for someone being bullied majority is not having a friend.  Someone they can vent to other than parents. My goal is to create a network of friendship of those who are being bullied and assist each other to help get through the day, make new friends who understand them, and also for those who know others who are being bullied who can assist others and create a better world and also bring smiles to everyone of all shapes, sized, appearances, and differences.

 

One small step is a kind act of the day.  Just a simple hi or how was your day or even sharing a meal can save a person from casting themselves into a dark pit of despair.   If you see a kid having a hard time or just looks sad help cheer them up.  Maybe even invite them to do something.  Because you cant judge a person by their cover.  People may surprise you how interesting they are.

 

Well until next time.  Hope i get some feedback.  Also i will set up a ventrillo (online speak) for those who want to use it as a safe place to talk.  The more feedback i get the more i can assist.  Lets spread the word and help those being suppressed to be silent and build up the “Protected Order of the Wolf Pack”.

Deutsch: Plakat vor dem Referendum der Iren zum Vertrag von Lissabon, 12. Juni 2008 Español: Carteles antes del referéndum (Photo credit: Wikipedia)